semi- Serious question, Idon’t get it. Most of us get why the hegemonic gender system is stupid, why subscribe to the binary role you were assigned? Also, why do straight people exist? Maybe it’s just me but I like to look and feel like my own perception of what is attractive.
Idk I think this is a kind of weird ask. I don’t think people choose to be the way they are, mostly.
I’m mostly joking
Edit: to elaborate, people sometimes naively ask this of trans people, so I thought it would be interesting to observe if the shoe was on the other foot. Now, this may seem like King Charles II’s request for an explanation for why a dead fish is heavier than a living one, but there is still a tiny bit of reason involved. The one I could come up with is just with the social construction of gender it is far easier to be normative if it doesn’t go against your being. I imagine it would be easier for people to experiment and go beyond current constraints comfortably in a communist post-gender society, but for now it’s not too hard for most to conform (beyond the obvious pain caused by the double edged sword of patriarchy).
Aight, fair enough. I’m not always great at catching tone.
Now, this may seem like King Charles II’s request for an explanation for why a dead fish is heavier than a living one
That’s a strange analogy
I like to reference relatively obscure things. The specific anecdote I recently read in a philosophy book called ‘After Virtue.’
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That’s a stupid question imo. Cisgender people didn’t choose their identity anymore than non-cisgender people did
I didn’t choose my gender but there’s still a reason I’m non-binary. I learned that gender was bs and realized I never strongly associated with being a dude and didn’t want to grow up to be seen as such by others.
The reason why I’m cisgender is partly bc I can’t imagine myself as anything else in terms of gender
This is a misconception. Cis people don’t choose their gender, nor do heteros their sexuality. All babies are born genderfluid bisexual. When they start teething, gender and sexuality fairies arrive and make the baby into something else. Babies too fabulous for heterosexuality are made homosexual. If the sexuality fairy doesn’t visit a baby, but they just love everyone so much, they can’t distingush someone[s] they particularly like to limit their love to, they end up identifying as asexual.
I know the gender fairy visited me, we have pictures and everything, but I not sure about the sexuality fairy. I’m told they arrived, but I’ve seen evidence they were elsewhere at the time.
Because I like BEER and WOMEN and ARM-WRESTLING and other MANLY things and I am definitely not COMPENSATING for any insecurities by performing a heteronormative role in society in a desperate attempt to fit in!
“why are you gay?” vibes. clown question, sorry.
People are the way they are, and thats it. Especially leftists, you aren’t going to surprise them with the “gender is a social construct” thing. They are what they have decided to be.
You have missed the entire joke because you were too busy being upset that the questions asked to trans people were turned onto cis people.
No leftist has ever asked “why are you trans?” in the way it’s been framed here by OP.
Non leftists do that kind of unpolite questions, but I would expect a leftist trans person to not copy non leftist impolite behavior when dealing with leftists.
It’s a bad joke tbh. Also in the wrong sub for jokes
Where have I been impolite? As someone on the internet, you should know that most things are a mix between satire and seriousness. I simply flipped the stupid trans question onto cis people for giggles and because I was interested in what people could come up with. I do not mean to suggest that cis people shouldn’t exist, just that if we must justify ourselves then so should you. (Almost) Everything has a reason, even if it’s just “it happened to be this way by circumstance.”
This might have been an okay bit if not for the “serious question,” which I still refuse to believe.
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I see it as that I am what I am and don’t care if what I do is seen as masculine or feminine.
Cause I like being a man. I assume it’s the same as how trans men like being men.
Maybe it’s just me but I like to look and feel like my own perception of what is attractive.
I don’t think that anyone’s preferences or identity is any less genuinely theirs just because they were influenced by culture. Moreover, what we find attractive can vary greatly from person to person, even within the binary norm.
I’m AMAB and never felt any other way than masculine. I’m also straight because that’s just what I’m attracted to. I was never raised to subscribe to gender roles by my family, and I’ve never thought people ought to. I know now that gender is a social construct, but I still choose to identify as such because it’s just what I am - what I feel to be. I don’t think it’s all that different to how my trans and NB friends choose to identify; only that society treats me better for it, which is a tragedy.
I don’t really feel duped or forced into this. I don’t feel unnatural just because how I identify lines up with how I “should” identify according to my country.
Maybe it’s just me but I like to look and feel like my own perception of what is attractive.
See this doesn’t work for me because I hate myself.
Unless my cisgender affects the way my normal life works, I honestly just don’t care about it…
I just do be like that. I’m not going around doing things ‘because I’m a man’ but otherwise I don’t have an issue with me being a man.
Path of least resistance i guess. I’m always trying to put in the least amount of effort possible on things that don’t matter that much to me, and my gender expression is just not something that i really care about anymore so i just go with what is easiest and takes the least amount of maintenance.
As for why straight people exist, i don’t know… do they? I used to think so but now I’m not so certain anymore. Nowadays i tend to think that everyone is more or less on a spectrum. Being completely straight seems as impossible to me as reaching absolute zero temperature. You can approach it but never really reach it.
So yeah, in conclusion i think straight people are probably a myth, and the only reason i’m cis is because every other option sounds like too much work.
I don’t agree with this one-drop rule for straightness. I have incidentally found men attractive, but at the end of the day, that’s the exception: I have found thousands of women attractive for every such incidence. It is disingenuous to call me as bisexual as a result—or at least renders the term meaningless.
Sure, but no one is strictly pure straight.
I don’t dispute that, but it doesn’t change its usefulness as a metric. I guess the question is where does ‘straightness’ end and ‘bisexuality’ begin? I’d argue that a Kinsey 1, for example, is still a straight guy. Labels are less like algebra and more like statistics—there’s always a bit of fuzz around the edges, or outliers you need to ignore.
Totally agree, everyone’s gotta be a tiny bit bi, that might explain people being ok cis. Even people who really think they’re straight are probably attracted to some enbies or femboys (who turn everyone gay).
I wanna answer sincerely, but I also wanna be silly like this post.
I think it’s a fun question to answer seriously.