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  • I haven’t had a relationship specifically with these goals, but I have had plenty of neurospicy BDSM relationships.

    I think there would be ways you could spin it to make it more appealing to you, and start with simple tasks and work up to bigger ones.

    I would start with thinking about whether having a dom carve you into a person that does tasks they hate because they are ordered to is something that turns you on in the context of those tasks, or else it might muddy the waters of an otherwise successful relationship.

    Try and bring in elements of what you like in BDSM, if you like being humiliated your dom could tell you that you didn’t do your task good enough and to do it better, they could withhold rewards until you beg to do more work etc.

    Make it routine, you’ll feel more comfortable, the actions will feel more rote, and best done with daily rewards from your dom so you anticipate feeling good after your tasks. Try break up your tasks so they can be done bit by bit every day.

    Stick with it even if it sucks for at least a few weeks, or else the patterns won’t stick.