Whenever I’m out in public with my friends, if a woman passes by, they always feel compelled to say whether or not “would bang”. They make it out like I’m the weird one for not doing this.
Pretty common and has been for a long time ( at least since the patriarchy ), it used to be even harrassment when wolf-whistling and similar practices were more common. As women rights have progressed, these practices have been replaced by these whispers between friends. Still the people that do these things are pretty much telling you that they only think about sex.
These answers are pretty surprising to me. I don’t know where do you all live nor what kind of people do you get yourselves involved with (and frankly, I don’t want to know), but I’m honestly glad that I can’t relate to this.
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“Normal”? Sadly yes with men.
Still gross as fuck. Feel validated, and if you can try to make them feel like the weird ones.
Yeah I have friends like that. It seems to be normalized in the among the more reactionary friends of mine, while the more progressive ones (as in some radlib tendencies) seem to be more crticial of such behavior although it still happens, albeit less frequently. It always makes me really uncomfortable.
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I’ve never understood this. I’ve never wanted to do that kind of thing.
Nope. Even when I was a teen we just looked and were happy with it. I have one friend that comments on instagram girls but we mostly don’t care to label them into “would bang” or “would not bang”.
“Is street harassment normal?” and “Is street harassment good?” are two very different questions.
yeah its pretty normal. not sure why americans are all such puritans that the idea of talking to your friends about who you’re attracted to is abnormal
Please don’t paint all of us non-Americans as creeps. To get weirded out if you are casually walking down the street and a friend of yours by your side tells you “I’d totally bang that one” when a random woman that none of you two has ever seen before passes by is not to be a puritan: it’s to be a normal human being with a minimum sense of what is socially appropriate and what it isn’t.
I don’t understand whats creepy about it. is it socially inappropriate because you’re talking about sex or inappropriate because you’re talking about being attracted to someone?
In my experience, the wording is not “I am attracted to this person”, it is rather done in a more degrading way. It is ok to say to your friend, that you are attracted to someone. But it can get quite annoying if a person starts rating every other person. I can somehow understand this behaviour if someone is experiencing puberty. Hormones are a hell of a thing.
It gets far more inappropriate if it is done in a political context. Likey being part of an organisation/party and some comrades are behaving like they are on Tinder.
Op should simply tell their friends, that they should stop doing it if it is a problem.