Sorry for being dramatic, but I feel absolutely awful right now and things seem to be moving in the wrong direction, I genuinely don’t know what to do next.

So please forgive a long rambly message to people who struggle with just that! I got ChatGPT to make a TL;DR, which I found quite amusing:

  • The poster is a 27-year-old who was diagnosed with ADHD this year and has been taking medication for the past 6 months, with a stable dosage for 3 months without issue, and generally positive outcomes.
  • Following that, they have experienced disrupted sleep patterns for the last 3 months, finding it difficult to fall asleep before 3AM even when going to bed at 1AM, which is negatively impacting their routine and work schedule.
  • Despite struggling with sleep and consistently waking up late, they manage to maintain productivity at work, which they value greatly. However, this is leading to further sleep deprivation, exacerbating the problem.
  • This disrupted sleep pattern is making them feel constantly tired, disorganized, and slow but they still seem to function effectively during the day.
  • Their work-life balance is skewed as their hours are shifted back, finishing work later, and they continue to be active until late at night, often forgoing relaxation time for themselves to deal with personal admin, projects, and other work.
  • They have devised a new strategy to cope with the situation:
  • They acknowledge that their biggest challenge will be stopping activities by 12PM, given their heightened productivity levels at that time.
  • Despite the plans to manage their situation, they are feeling increasingly stressed out and overwhelmed, fearing the consequences on their health and personal relationships.
  • They are seeking advice from the ADHD community that goes beyond typical sleep hygiene tips.

I’m 27, diagnosed this year, on meds for ADHD for around 6 months. All was going well, and was stable on my current dose for 3+ months before this became an issue.

I take 20mg dexamphetamine at 7AM when I wake, then take 70mg of lisdexamfetamine dimesylate at the same time or a bit later. I’ve tried halving the 70mg for a week or so, but no change. (on sleep)

Over the last 3 months, my sleep pattern has completely gone to shit. I’ve always been a night owl, and naturally gravitate to a 3AM-9AM sleep pattern when I don’t have to be up. But I’ve worked a full time job for years, which means me waking up at 7AM. So I will usually go to bed at 1-ish, sometimes later. This has always worked quite well.

However, recently I’ve found it hard to get any sleep before 3AM. Usually, one I’m actually in bed, I’ve always fallen asleep quickly. My job is fairly physical, so I’m usually at least physically tired. But even when I’m going to bed at like 1AM, I’m literally just lying there unable to sleep. It feels unnatural, like trying to sleep at noon. I have energy, thoughts, and a nice sense of calm and quiet. It’s gotten to a point where I haven’t had more than 4 hours of sleep in the last couple of months more than a handful of times, and in the last two weeks, on two occasions I’ve simply opted to stay awake, because it’s 0430, it’s basically daylight (I bloody hate Summer), the birds have been at it for hours.

Maybe the worst thing is that I can generally get by okay. Morning is hell, always has been, but after about an hour I’m feeling the same as almost any day. I’ve been struggling to wake up, and have gotten progressively later at work over the last 12 months, where I’m now showing up 30-60mins late as standard. Nobody really cares, I have always worked lots of overtime, so I don’t take lunch and work an hour or so later until my work is done. But my work is both important to me, and important to my colleagues. As much as walking away from it for a while may be a good idea, I’d be leaving everyone in the shit. It’s a small business, if they had enough redundancy for nobody to be essential, none of us would have jobs!

When I get less than 5 hours, I notice it, but I don’t think anyone else does. I feel slow, disorganised and very typically ‘ADHD’. But I’m very functional. I’ll do a full day, do overtime, come home, work on some other things, get caught up on the bare minimum, look at the clock, and see that its 1AM, and I haven’t even done any ‘relaxing’ stuff for me yet, so that is, of course, the right time to playa few rounds of intense competitive games…

Even 420 doesn’t seem to be able to calm me down enough to help.

I’m writing this after getting less than an hour’s sleep again.

I’ve come up with some ideas on how to proceed, I’m just worried that it’s the same kind of approach I always take that rarely works, basically schedule everything, ignoring the fact that the schedule will feel miserable, unnatural and that I can ignore it. I’ve tried to make this a bit more human. Current planned changes:

  • Must finish work by 6PM, unless we are truly in crisis mode
  • I will not eat anything after 11:30PM
  • At 12PM I will have a shower, which I hope will prepare me for bed
  • No computer after 12 (sorry me)
  • Reducing morning lisdexamfetamine to 35mg. I don’t think it’s the medication, but it can’t help!

The hardest bit for me is going to be stopping at 12. I have lots to fit in, and not a lot of time, plus I feel really awake and productive at 12. So just walking away from whatever I’m in the middle of is going to be hardest, when I know I could just not. I may shift all of this forward an hour for the first week, otherwise it may simply be too much at once. I’m hoping that, by resting better, I won’t have things I still need to do by 12.

But mostly, I just feel like shit. I hate being late every day, I hate days like today where I don’t even know what to do, should I go in to work? How to I make sure everything will be okay without me on such short notice? I know this is awful for my health, I feel very ‘thin’, and my heartbeat is so much more noticeable when I’m on no/little sleep. My BP was fine when I checked after a month of this. To be honest, I almost don’t want to check again, because it will be high, and I don’t know what I’d do with that, I already know I need to fix this.

Everything just feels like a chore at the moment, every nice plan with my gf is just stressing me out more, because all I see is even less time, more shit building up, and I don’t even know how to prepare for a holiday when I’m living like this.

I’ve never really engaged with the ADHD community, even after my diagnosis, which is pretty dumb. I’m sorry to just dump all this at you, but I really need advice from people who realise that just repeating the same cliches about ‘sleep hygiene’ may not actually be helpful in this case.

  • MrPoopyButthole@lemmy.worldM
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    1 year ago

    I’ll also apologize for being dramatic. But you are killing yourself. You should take this seriously.

    Don’t take any of my advice without first checking with your doctor.

    If this were me I would stop all meds over a 7 day period. I would stop coffee, alcohol, weed, nicotine, everything. I would let my body return to baseline. This takes a minimum of 4 weeks. Usually about 7 weeks. It sounds like a scary thing to do but you’ll be fine, just make sure to discuss stopping meds with your doctor.

    When I do this, the first 3 days are hell, the first week sucks, the first three weeks are ok but I feel dull and flat, then after 4 - 7 weeks I start to get my feelings of well-being back and a sense of peace. I find myself yawning in the middle of the day and enjoying my lack of total central nervous system stimulation. Stimulants and anxiety are usually the two main causes of sleeplessness. This helps with both. If you are still not sleeping after two months of this then you need to see a sleep specialist. Its possible that you are having other sleep issues that you are not aware of.

    You’re not stopping meds permanently, but you are giving yourself a blank canvas with which you can experiment and discover the root causes of the problem. Slowly add back things one by one and give a week before adding the next thing so that you have had time to experience the change fully. You should easily see if adding something causes problems with your sleep.

    Another thing to try as others have suggested is learning to calm your mind. Yoga, meditation and the like will give you more control over your mind (limbic system). Don’t make it harder than it needs to be. Youtube has lots of pilates, yoga, meditation videos. Put one on and follow along.

    There are ways to brute force the solution, like to take sleeping aid meds or get really stoned, but I’d only try that as a last resort. If you can find the root cause of the probem, thats first prize.

    Good luck!

  • ramanga@feddit.uk
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    1 year ago

    If you haven’t already. White noise is the only way I can sleep. Anything thunder related works for me. Having some sleep headphones playing that means I fall asleep even when trying not to. Without it I can lie awake for hours.

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    1 year ago

    I have two tools that I use to fall asleep, and they have been working pretty flawlessly for me over the years. The primary one is reading a book in bed, when I’m off to sleep. Usually it’s not a lot of reading, I get pretty sleepy after 10-15 pages. The other is supplementary to the reading and that’s imagining some fiction scenario in my head. For me, it’s some simple SciFi or fantasy scene or whatever and I try to visualize the characters, scenery, etc. It’s usually just enough to occupy my brain enough so that it doesn’t do its thing of running around wherever it wants to, and just not quite enough to give it fuel for active engagement. No idea if either might work for you, but maybe give it a go if you haven’t already.

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      That’s usually worked 100% for me. Either listening to an audiobook, or listening to a genre of video on Youtube I can only describe as “long-form space and quantum physics shit that I don’t understand but find weirdly soothing”.

      Usually works great, but I just can’t seem to switch off, if anything, it can actually start adding to the discomfort. Weird really, maybe I need to find something that fills the same gap, but is different.

  • ∟⊔⊤∦∣≶@lemmy.nz
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    1 year ago

    Ok so… I can’t say much about the medication because I’m still unmedicated.

    But I definitely know what it’s like to be stuck being awake doing shit when I should be sleeping.

    This is going to sound trite but have you tried exercise? Tiring your body out will make it easier to sleep. Even going out for a long walk at night and listening to something on your phone.

    I can schedule really effectively for like… 3 days. I have planned out my budget to the cent before. It never sticks because I find another obsession.

    Do you find you ping pong between good and bad habits over the months? I do. If so, relax, stability will come back round again and try to hold on to it longer this time.

    I’m new to knowing I have adhd so I can only offer basic advice.

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      Thanks, appreciate it! Yes, definitely ping-pong between good and bad, you have a very similar outlook to me, in terms of having phases of good and bad and trying to make the good ones last!

      I have an active job, but I think some kind of other exercise would be beneficial. Unfortunately whatever I do would need to be quiet, and preferably not involve trying to sneak in and out without setting my parents’ dog off! I was just thinking pushups or similar.

      I hope you find the tools you need too, sounds like medication may help you, although I found it doesn’t help with all the new obsessions!

  • 【J】【u】【s】【t】【Z】@lemmy.world
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    The older you get, the more such lack of sleep will slow you down. People might not notice when you’re 27 and can power through tired, but you’ll start to lose that within the next ten years. Take it from me.

    Didn’t see in your post: what are you doing for exercise?

    Don’t exercise for physical health, your appearance, or to lose weight. The sole reason for people like us to exercise is to calm your amygdala, to calm your fight or flight instinct. This will help you manage your emotions through the day and into the evening, and will help you fall asleep.

    What are you doing at night that is stopping you from sleep? For me, I related to the idea of “revenge sleep procrastination.” Staying away because it was more fun than going to bed, basically. Exercise helps. It’s a struggle.

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      I don’t really do any specific exercise. I work quite a physical job, although these days I sometimes spend all day at a desk, but I’m usually on my feet all day, lifting heavy things. Perhaps doing more office work and not doing exercise to compensate could be a big part of this.

      What kind of stuff do you do? I’m quite limited as to what I could do at home due to hours and noise, I’d default to something like press-ups. I could do something more substantial in the warehouse when everyone else has gone home, though! I don’t know anything about how much or what kind of exercise is required to satisfy my amygdala, but I’ll do some research!

      Yeah, revenge procrastination is definitely big for me, I’ll often only get the boring shit finished quite late in the day, then think ‘but I haven’t had any chill time yet!’ and spend a few hours gaming or something. This is my usual issue, which I generally manage okay with. Usually when I hit the pillow, I’m asleep pretty fast, but recently I’m just in bed lying there, completely alert.

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    Reducing morning lisdexamfetamine to 35mg. I don’t think it’s the medication, but it can’t help!

    It’s the vyvanse. Yeah, it’s really helpful, but it’s definitely the vyvanse.

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      Hm, I’ve been on it for about 6 months now which has made me doubt it. I will continue on this lower dose and see if it helps!