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It took me weeks to get used to the fact that I didn’t have to expect aggressive negativity, and to realize that it was okay to give people the benefit of the doubt. I thought I knew how toxic and negative reddit had become, but I didn’t really get it until I compared it to Lemmy.
The amount of anxiety I’d get just posting comments on reddit was insane. I’d spend a stupid amount of time rereading and editing my comment, and then there was still probably a 50% chance I’d discard it anyway. On Lemmy, after an adjustment period, it’s much easier. I don’t think I realized how hostile and toxic a lot of online spaces really are.
It helps to think that if someone is a complete jerk to you when they respond to your comment, they’re a jerk so you don’t have to care what their opinion is. I know it’s easier to say than do, but my general feeling is that if I don’t respect someone, I don’t really care what their opinion of me is. In fact, I’d be more bothered if they agreed with what I said.
It took me weeks to get used to the fact that I didn’t have to expect aggressive negativity, and to realize that it was okay to give people the benefit of the doubt. I thought I knew how toxic and negative reddit had become, but I didn’t really get it until I compared it to Lemmy.
The amount of anxiety I’d get just posting comments on reddit was insane. I’d spend a stupid amount of time rereading and editing my comment, and then there was still probably a 50% chance I’d discard it anyway. On Lemmy, after an adjustment period, it’s much easier. I don’t think I realized how hostile and toxic a lot of online spaces really are.
It helps to think that if someone is a complete jerk to you when they respond to your comment, they’re a jerk so you don’t have to care what their opinion is. I know it’s easier to say than do, but my general feeling is that if I don’t respect someone, I don’t really care what their opinion of me is. In fact, I’d be more bothered if they agreed with what I said.