I’ll post my response to this question in a comment.
I’ve been engaged in chastity consistently for about 15 years now. I’ve tried tons of different cages and products, have had a few different keyholders, some who I lived with and a couple times who lived in the same city but weren’t engaged with me romantically or sexually.
The device I’m currently locked in, that I’ve realized I can literally keep on indefinitely is a titanium Bijou with a special key that you can’t replicate or force open. I can clean it effectively without taking it off with a small amount effort and a tiny brush.
Currently I’m self-locked. I use a metal timed lock box to hold my key (with an emergency key held by a friend). Every day I have to spin a wheel with various times on it. 60% of the wheel consists of “skip” which means I don’t have to add any time to my lock box. The other 40% consist of 1 day, 3 days, 5 days and 7 days of added time.
I started my current lock cycle at 7 days, and have gotten very unlucky, as I’m currently at 40 days with it on, and another 8 days on the timer. Every one of those 8 days now has a chance to add even more time. At one point I managed to get down to 5 days before getting two 7 days in a row!
It’s been fun, and since I’m no longer having sex and the cage is perfectly comfortable all the time, it’s fun to see how long it will take.
Thanks for reviving this community!
It’s been, on and off, about 7-8 years for me. I only have an actual keyholder as of this year in the form of my partner. It’s been going great so far!
Currently wearing a Kink3D Cobra S, which is the most comfortable cage I’ve ever worn. Have a good Cherry Keeper as well, plus a few knockoff devices from eBay. I have a flat metal cage coming as well, which will definitely only be for short term use.
Will be locked for the rest of the month, though I do have hygiene unlocks (and other unlocks at Goddess’s discretion).
Longest I’ve ever done is really Locktober, so about 14 days. We’ve done week-long stints before. Not a permanent locked person, don’t have interest in being permalocked, but I let my Goddess decide. She knows what’s best and how much to push me ❤️
I’ve been self-locking on and off for several years. I now use a cherry keeper cage that is basically the size of my glans. Sometimes I put it on as foreplay to fapping in the next couple hours. Mostly I try (barrier is comfort) to wear it all-day on days that I wear it. I’d love to be able to wear it as much of the time as possible (eg, 24/7 and only unlock for small periods of time for predefined tasks like routine hygiene). I suppose I’m slowly learning to wear it for longer periods of time. I often but not always unlock and fap/masturbate afterwards - before I go to sleep for example. I’m more interested in the gendering and orgasm control effects of chastity (eg, can’t fap, masturbate, or penetrate anyone and are sub-like) than I am pure orgasm denial. Having a partner who is my keyholder would be a dream come true. I suppose I’m slowly working my way there (hopefully) as I become more confident with who I am, including that chastity might be a sexual non-negotiable for me (not all the time necessarily, but at least some of the time).
More the 'why' I engage in chastity (content warning: gender dysphoria):
Chastity is a fun fetish but on a more holistic level, I’m beginning to see my desire to wear my cage as a barometer of gender dysphoria. For example, if I wake up and want to put on my cage right away, I’ll do so but I’m also making a mental note that I’m probably feeling significantly dysphoric and I should address that today beyond just the cage. Because the cage is great but it’s not an all-in-one long-term solution to gender dysphoria for me.