• henfredemars@infosec.pub
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    4 months ago

    As an autist, this simplifies into never approach women just to be safe because I suck at reading people and they won’t just tell me they rather not.

    I don’t blame them but it’s a really shitty situation overall. How can you get better at flirting if you don’t practice/get feedback and accept rejection graciously?

    Meeting my wife was nothing short of a miracle.

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      4 months ago

      Sometimes you just gotta try to read the person your best, be friendly, and flirt. Make a compliment, just try to keep it respectful, and give it some time to set in with the other person. Just don’t lead in with ‘hey sugar tits, you looking fine today baby gurl’ or something along those lines lol. Also don’t lay it on too thick, maybe just a comment in passing, like nice outfit, looks amazing, love the pop of color or something, or wow, you are really good at xyz, how long have you been into that?

      I can relate to the struggle, but sometimes you just gotta take a big gulp and try to be confident in yourself (just enough) to take that chance.

      • joes@lemmy.dbzer0.com
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        It needs to be deniable. Actually make it possible for both of you to just walk away without a second thought about it. Alternatively, ask directly (may backfire).