I feel that I should preface this by warning questioning people that looking for signs is generally not a good way to find out if you’re trans. Different people experience being trans in different ways.
Thank you lady_scarecrow for the above disclaimer. Very good advice ❤️
Some advice on waiting to commit: don’t wait to figure out your gender to do X; wait until you’re confident you want to / would benefit from doing X to do X, regardless of if you’ve figured out your gender. And if the risk is low, maybe just try it anyway.
I waited a while to start HRT because I was worried I might not really be a girl, and I’m actually still unsure. But that’s not the right question, the question I should’ve been asking was if I thought it’d help me vs the risk of being wrong, and I had known for a long time it would almost certainly be a huge net positive. I started 3 months ago and my only regret is not trying sooner, especially since I knew back then too.
Basically, don’t gatekeep yourself behind gender.
Oh thank you for this! I definitely want to actively explore further, and I don’t really think of it as gatekeeping myself behind the right label.
It’s mostly me being conscious and afraid of making decisions that have a lasting impact, like coming out (even if it’s just about the fact that I’m figuring things out). Physical changes that can’t easily be reversed are still a ways away.
But I will try to take your advice to heart and allow myself to take some steps. There’s always the option of chickening out, right?